Grandfamilies: Build Something Together

  Rich and Ayden, Visiting Annie the Miniature Horse. Spring, 2007. Building Traditions Maybe we have already discussed this topic. If we have, then please understand that I am repeating myself because I feel so strongly about it. While you’re rolling along, being a parent or a grandparent or some other significant flavor of adult in […]


Are You Playing Fair?

Christmas Eve, 1973:  My new hospital roommate wastes no time calling her adult children:  I know it’s Christmas Eve, and I certainly don’t want to interrupt your time with your wife and children, but I thought I should let you know that I’m in the hospital.  Well, they think it’s the same thing that killed your father, may God […]


Grandparenting: Two Speeds

Daphne and Me, Wearing Our Costumes. April, 2015. Rich and I cared for my daughter’s two youngest ones this past weekend. Might I say, without putting too fine a point on it, that menopause was one of God’s very best design features? My respect for parents, and their keeping up with their loveable tilt-a-whirl preschoolers, is rejuvenated. And you grandparents […]


Grandparenting: On Sharing

Cadence and Daphne, Sleeping after Twenty Hours of Travel My girl and her littles are back in California after four years living in the Pacific. I’m going to say that one more time, because this mama is so happy she can’t hardly stand it: My girl and her littles are back in California after four years living in […]


Grandparenting: Father Knows Best–Honest

Sometimes I wish, our friend says, lowering his voice and leaning toward my husband and me as we share breakfast at a local cafe, that my mom would remember that we’re the parents now. I nod, my silence carving out room for him to say more. Soon enough, he does: Our kids really do best on a schedule, and Shelly’s […]