The Grief-Tested Car

Elaine and me, Quietly Happy Together. Tahiti. January, 2004. Reunions, Funerals, and Oil Lines My daughter Elaine, grandsons Cadence and Sawyer, her husband’s sister Crissy, and Crissy’s baby Annabelle land at LAX in ten hours and twenty-five minutes.  Not that I’m counting or anything.  The U.S. Navy sent my daughter and her family to Hawaii […]


The Grief-Tested Car

Elaine and me, Quietly Happy Together. Tahiti. January, 2004. Reunions, Funerals, and Oil Lines My daughter Elaine, grandsons Cadence and Sawyer, her husband’s sister Crissy, and Crissy’s baby Annabelle land at LAX in ten hours and twenty-five minutes.  Not that I’m counting or anything.  The U.S. Navy sent my daughter and her family to Hawaii […]


The Day I Met my Dad

Dad and I Practice an Important Walk. Mom Supervises. September, 2007. Getting to Know Him“Dad, I have a question for you,” It was the second anniversary of my mother’s death, and he and I had met at the cemetery. As we stood among the urns and crypts, the silence of the place pressed in on […]


The Day I Met my Dad

Dad and I Practice an Important Walk. Mom Supervises. September, 2007. Getting to Know Him“Dad, I have a question for you,” It was the second anniversary of my mother’s death, and he and I had met at the cemetery. As we stood among the urns and crypts, the silence of the place pressed in on […]


There and Back Again: Holy, Holy, Holy

Smith Museum of Stained Glass Windows. Chicago. 2009. Sunday Flooding Sunday in church I cried. It wasn’t the first time, and it won’t be the last, I don’t think. But this past Sunday, as our congregation sang “Holy, Holy, Holy,” tears rolled down my face as if I were chopping onions. Or grieving. I was […]