Grandfamilies: For When You’re In a Worst Moment

Ayden Wearing His Daddy’s Helmet. January 2011. “My daddy’s coming back ALIVE!” Five-year-old grandlittle Ayden announced, determination glinting in his eyes. I panicked. Twenty-two people gathered in this house, I thought, and nobody else is in the living room when the child says this? “He is coming back!” Ayden repeated. I couldn’t ignore the boy–I had to engage with […]

Looming Memories

At a Baby Shower. April 18, 1982. Left to Right: My mother, Marilyn Lee Downs Seiler. August 20, 1936 – September 30, 2008 Me, eight months pregnant with my daughter. My cousin, Marcia Ann Isbell. September 14, 1967 – May 8, 2000 My aunt and Marcia’s mother, Marlene Ann Downs Isbell. August 3, 1938 – […]

In Grief’s Waiting Room

Our Entryway. Memorial to Sergeant Sean Michael Lagrand Third Marine Air Wing, Aircraft Rescue Fire Fighting. July 13, 1981-September 25, 2006 Remembering Sean  This Memorial Day morning, I hear my husband sniffle. I look over, sure I know…but I ask, anyway, as I wrap my arms around him and his blue terry robe: “What is […]

The Museum of Mom

[Today’s post is from the archives.]   In Loving Memory of my Mother, Marilyn Lee Downs Seiler.  August 20, 1936 – September 30, 2008. The Search of a Lifetime The message from my father came as we were preparing to leave for vacation: Hi, I have given much thought to how to give your mom’s wedding rings […]

Weekend Reflection: Spoiler

3 And I heard a loud voice from the throne, saying, “Behold, the tabernacle of God is among men, and He will dwell among them, and they shall be His people, and God Himself will be among them, 4 and He will wipe away every tear from their eyes; and there will no longer be […]