Why I Went Missing

Most of Us: Missing One Son, One Son-in-Law, and One Grandson. April 18. This Shot is an Update. It’s been quiet around here, hmm? I don’t often skip posting for two weeks. But I’ve been busy being a grandmother instead of writing about it. My daughter and her family were in the area for two weeks […]


Grandparenting: On Sharing

Cadence and Daphne, Sleeping after Twenty Hours of Travel My girl and her littles are back in California after four years living in the Pacific. I’m going to say that one more time, because this mama is so happy she can’t hardly stand it: My girl and her littles are back in California after four years living in […]


Grandparenting: Father Knows Best–Honest

Sometimes I wish, our friend says, lowering his voice and leaning toward my husband and me as we share breakfast at a local cafe, that my mom would remember that we’re the parents now. I nod, my silence carving out room for him to say more. Soon enough, he does: Our kids really do best on a schedule, and Shelly’s […]


I Need to Get This Story Straight . . .

Blurry But Happy: Daughter Elaine (Wearing Tatie Noelline’s Hei), Me (Center Back), and One Branch of Our Tahitian Family. Tapuamu, Tahaa, Leeward Islands of Society Archipelago. January, 2004.  . . . And I need your help!  Maybe you remember that I’m working on a book about extended families. Maybe you remember that I’m focusing on blended extended families. Now, I […]


Grandparenting: One Size Fits None

Casey Renee, About One Hour Old. August 5, 2013 Impossible . . .  One of my anthropology professors liked to paraphrase Heraclitus. You can’t swim in the same river twice, he would tell us. The older I get, the more I feel the truth of it: stuff changes. On this earth, just about everything is dynamic. When I think of […]