I Need to Get This Story Straight . . .

Blurry But Happy: Daughter Elaine (Wearing Tatie Noelline’s Hei), Me (Center Back), and One Branch of Our Tahitian Family. Tapuamu, Tahaa, Leeward Islands of Society Archipelago. January, 2004.  . . . And I need your help!  Maybe you remember that I’m working on a book about extended families. Maybe you remember that I’m focusing on blended extended families. Now, I […]

Grandparenting: Please Help Me!

My Great-Grandfather, My Sister, My Mother, Me. 1959. When I was a child, I assumed everybody’s family was just like mine. I still recall the shocking discovery that  a second-grade classmate and her family lived in an apartment. I didn’t get it. Everybody knew that families live in houses, right?  Sometimes I think I know something when I really […]

Tears, Toilets, and Teachable Moments

Cadence and His Cherished Toy. Oh, and Cake. And Why I am Buying My Husband a Cape. We’d had a lovely dinner, the Southern California branch of the family herd rounded up and gathered at the endless trough of hospitality that is my-dad-and-his-bride’s-home. My sister was there with her younger boy, and Rich and I had brought […]

When We Went Down to the River to Pray, Part Two: With a Babe on her Hip

Christopher Williams and his Djembe. Video by Sandra Heska King.  [This post is the second in a series of reflections from the retreat I attended in November with The High Calling folks. You can find the first installment here.] At Laity Lodge, the musicians in residence aren’t there to entertain.  They are there to engage. In […]

Weekend Reflection: Strong

It’s better to have a partner than go it alone. Share the work, share the wealth. And if one falls down, the other helps, But if there’s no one to help, tough! Two in a bed warm each other. Alone, you shiver all night. By yourself you’re unprotected. With a friend you can face the […]