Weekend Reflection: Remembered

My Husband’s Firstborn, Sean Michael Lagrand. July 13, 1981 – September 25, 2006 Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted. Matthew 5:4 (ESV) Shhh. It’s the weekend. Remove your shoes and step into the stillness. Stopy by Sandra Heska King’s place for Still Saturday.  Then stop by Lisha Epperson’s Give me Grace. Join us? We saved room just for […]


In Grief’s Waiting Room

Our Entryway. Memorial to Sergeant Sean Michael Lagrand Third Marine Air Wing, Aircraft Rescue Fire Fighting. July 13, 1981-September 25, 2006 Remembering Sean  This Memorial Day morning, I hear my husband sniffle. I look over, sure I know…but I ask, anyway, as I wrap my arms around him and his blue terry robe: “What is […]


Mourning on Mother’s Day

 A Dim, Dim, Glimmer.  (If you came by for a poignant Mother’s Day memory, click here. A sweet mothering memory? Here.) I’ve sat with a mother whose teenaged firstborn son vanished. We posted handbills and raised money for a private investigator and hounded the media to keep the story alive. Our families had been close friends since […]


In the Philippines, They’re Looking for Us

Please.  We Can Be Hope. We Can Be Help.  Maybe you’ve heard the story that Fred Rogers offered as advice for helping young children cope with frightening  circumstances: When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, “Look for the helpers. You will always […]


My Uncle’s Listening Lesson

Kinfolk. Ca. 1970 Cracking the Code I called my uncle “Pete” this past weekend. He’s really my great-uncle, half-brother to my grandfather, but through one of those odd genealogical twists of fate, he’s only a few years older than my mother (his niece) was. Anyway, I phoned him to make good on a promise I’d made […]