Grandfamilies: Help, Don’t Harp–How to Make Your Visit a Win

Sawyer, Rob, Cadence, Daphne, Elaine, Me, Rich. Charleston. September 4, 2016. At the beginning of this month, we were privileged to be the houseguests of daughter Elaine and her husband, Rob. I cherish this privilege because I know that having houseguests for ten days is no small thing, no matter how much love flows between […]


Grandfamilies: Summer Car Games #1: Dreaming Together

Cadence, Papa Rich, and Ayden, Blowing Out Papa’s Birthday Candles. April 2011. Big Dreams for Big Dreamers Let’s play a game, boys, I chirped as we drove the boys home after a weekend overnighter. Let’s see how big a dream we can cook up. Just tell us your biggest, biggest dream. Cadence didn’t hesitate. I want an […]


Grandfamilies: Destination Grandlittle

Five Awesome Things About Grandparenting From Afar Our grandlittles have never lived in our community. Two households-full are within a 90-minute drive; the third set is currently on the opposite coast, after two rounds of island homes. So while I’ve dreamed of being the Lala who could pick the littles up after school or step […]


Weekend Reflection: Go

Elaine. South Pacific Ocean. January, 2004. Man’s goings are of the Lord; how can a man then understand his own way?Proverbs 20:24 (KJV) Ssshhh. Remove your shoes. Take a deep, deep breath. Breathe again. And again: breathe. That’s how we roll on the weekend.


Raise a Holy Hum

Elaine and Hoanie. Tapuamu, Tahaa. 2004. Play Song, Pray SongSunday I learned that prayer sounds a lot like play. Sort of. Let me explain. Papeete, Tahiti, 1990. Walking back to the hostel, my friend (who happens to be my friend solely because at this moment, we’re both guests at the same hostel and so we […]