My Uncle’s Listening Lesson

Kinfolk. Ca. 1970 Cracking the Code I called my uncle “Pete” this past weekend. He’s really my great-uncle, half-brother to my grandfather, but through one of those odd genealogical twists of fate, he’s only a few years older than my mother (his niece) was. Anyway, I phoned him to make good on a promise I’d made […]


Drive-By Conviction

Fire Trucks at Cook’s Corner. October, 2007. In Good Faith“Always assume good faith,” my friend Bruce counseled. My graduate-school colleague seldom offered advice, so when he did, I listened. I had naively stepped in a seething campus controversy. Now that I was stranded in quicksand, I kept glimpsing hostile motives sliding around corners just beyond […]


Counting the Cost?

T-Ball. Count the Value A few weeks ago we watched our grandson, Cadence, play T-ball. The game was like most T-ball games: small children with vague notions of the rules ran around for an hour under the patient supervision and loving instruction of lots of parents. Cadence Tearing Up the Baseline. One particularly common move for […]


Bagels and Floods

The Four-Slice Wonder. Cream Cheese and Choices We had a bad day, here, not too long ago. He said something, or maybe I did, and it didn’t sit right on the other’s heart, and suddenly we were scowling and snapping words out of thin air, turning our backs and letting untold annoyances overflow their banks. […]


How’s Work?

My Husband: Leader of the Pack. Changes at work can create upheaval, leaving staff feeling devalued and functionally hogtied. Changes at work can also empower staff with new efficiencies, freeing more time for key tasks. As operations manager at a small investment advisory firm, I help identify and execute changes. I minimize the upheaval and […]